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stacy + justin – milagro winery ramona [Real Wedding]

I received an inquiry through my website about six weeks before their date, and they let me know that it would be an elopement with just their three daughters, and at one of my favorite venues, Milagro Winery in Ramona.  Since I already had a wedding booked for later that afternoon, I first had to see what time they were thinking – with enough time in between, I can definitely do a second wedding in a day, but I won’t say yes without lots of cushion.  Thankfully, they were thinking midday/early afternoon in order to …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: What do I put in my vows?

After you’ve thought about what kind of structure your vows might be, and how long they might be, what do you write?  What should be in your vows? Remember, the exchange of vows is one of the key reasons for your wedding day (whether it’s public in a wedding, or private in an elopement), and the vows are supposed to last as long as you do. So I recommend that you put a lot of thought into what you want to promise and how you want to promise it.  I expect that the memory of …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Length of Vows

Did you see my previous post on types of vows?  Well, as they start to work through the process, many couples ask me about the typical length of vows. We show our couples ideas that are a whole variety of lengths, intentionally, and this is what I usually recommend: If questions – usually 3-6 questions If a paragraph to read themselves – usually 150-225 words. Some couples do shorter, and some do longer, but this is the normal range that I see from my couples. I definitely don’t recommend longer than 300 words, as that …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Types of Vows

We get asked regularly about vows and how to make them truly your own.  In almost every meeting with our couples, this is the part where real relief comes across their faces – no, you will not be alone in writing your vows, we promise, and will give you as much help and guidance and ideas as you need! Here is one of the first things we share, different ways that you can do your vows: Essentially there are three ways to do vows: A question or multiple questions that I read and you answer …
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michelle + carl – balboa park

I received an email last September from a couple who were planning an intimate and informal wedding celebration right before year-end, with only a handful of family members in attendance, in addition to her two teenage sons, and that it was a second marriage for both of them. The three of us got together very shortly after to talk about what they wanted and didn’t want from their ceremony, and then we walked though my process and how I work.  Michelle and Carl told me that they actually had dated in college, 30 years ago, …
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