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Vows Advice & Ideas: What do I put in my vows?

After you’ve thought about what kind of structure your vows might be, and how long they might be, what do you write?  What should be in your vows? Remember, the exchange of vows is one of the key reasons for your wedding day (whether it’s public in a wedding, or private in an elopement), and the vows are supposed to last as long as you do. So I recommend that you put a lot of thought into what you want to promise and how you want to promise it.  I expect that the memory of …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Length of Vows

Did you see my previous post on types of vows?  Well, as they start to work through the process, many couples ask me about the typical length of vows. We show our couples ideas that are a whole variety of lengths, intentionally, and this is what I usually recommend: If questions – usually 3-6 questions If a paragraph to read themselves – usually 150-225 words. Some couples do shorter, and some do longer, but this is the normal range that I see from my couples. I definitely don’t recommend longer than 300 words, as that …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Types of Vows

We get asked regularly about vows and how to make them truly your own.  In almost every meeting with our couples, this is the part where real relief comes across their faces – no, you will not be alone in writing your vows, we promise, and will give you as much help and guidance and ideas as you need! Here is one of the first things we share, different ways that you can do your vows: Essentially there are three ways to do vows: A question or multiple questions that I read and you answer …
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michelle + carl – balboa park

I received an email last September from a couple who were planning an intimate and informal wedding celebration right before year-end, with only a handful of family members in attendance, in addition to her two teenage sons, and that it was a second marriage for both of them. The three of us got together very shortly after to talk about what they wanted and didn’t want from their ceremony, and then we walked though my process and how I work.  Michelle and Carl told me that they actually had dated in college, 30 years ago, …
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cassie + ryan – torrey pines state reserve, guy fleming trail south overlook

I received an email from Cassie after she found me on The Knot.  They had originally been planning a larger wedding in Connecticut, where their families are and from where they had moved about six months earlier.  But planning a larger wedding, especially from a distance, really wasn’t them, they said, and they know that they would be more focused on other things (like details or other folks) and not just on the meaning for the event, so they decided that they would much prefer a very personal and more private celebration, and that’s when …
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