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Vows Advice & Ideas: Length of Vows

Did you see my previous post on types of vows?  Well, as they start to work through the process, many couples ask me about the typical length of vows. We show our couples ideas that are a whole variety of lengths, intentionally, and this is what I usually recommend: If questions – usually 3-6 questions If a paragraph to read themselves – usually 150-225 words. Some couples do shorter, and some do longer, but this is the normal range that I see from my couples. I definitely don’t recommend longer than 300 words, as that …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Types of Vows

We get asked regularly about vows and how to make them truly your own.  In almost every meeting with our couples, this is the part where real relief comes across their faces – no, you will not be alone in writing your vows, we promise, and will give you as much help and guidance and ideas as you need! Here is one of the first things we share, different ways that you can do your vows: Essentially there are three ways to do vows: A question or multiple questions that I read and you answer …
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Readings Ideas: Love is a Decision

There are so many great ideas out there of what can be included in a wedding ceremony, and yet I hear from couples regularly who don’t know that they can do anything outside the norm.  Oh, yes, please do!  And since “readings” often makes folks think “religious” or “traditional” and yet that’s not necessarily the case at all, since there are so many great pieces that can be used as ceremony readings, I thought I’d start to share some here. Here is one of my current favorites, and I love using it right before my …
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Feels more real with that marriage license in hand!

I love when I hear from my couples that they’ve just gotten their marriage license, as I know that it feels so much more real to them at that point!  It sure did for me! In California, you can actually get your marriage license up to 90 days before the wedding.  But, since there is no waiting period, you can also get your license right up until the very day of the wedding (although why anyone would add stress like that on that day if they didn’t have to, I don’t know!).  Unless there is …
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michelle + carl – balboa park

I received an email last September from a couple who were planning an intimate and informal wedding celebration right before year-end, with only a handful of family members in attendance, in addition to her two teenage sons, and that it was a second marriage for both of them. The three of us got together very shortly after to talk about what they wanted and didn’t want from their ceremony, and then we walked though my process and how I work.  Michelle and Carl told me that they actually had dated in college, 30 years ago, …
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