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Using wine in your wedding ceremony

Do you two enjoy wine?  Is that something that you already share in your life together?  If so, have you thought about including wine in your ceremony? Wine is something that some of my couples definitely enjoy including in their wedding ceremony, and here are some fun ways to do it: Sharing a favorite wine from one glass together. Blending two wines together and then sharing that mix from one glass. Using wine corks not only as decor but as part of a “stone blessing” type ceremony component. Putting a bottle of wine, along with …
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Readings Idea: Captain Corelli’s Mandolin

Are you enjoying these readings ideas?  If you’ve missed them, here are the earlier ones: here and here.  Since my couples tend to be non-religious and/or non-traditional, it’s fun getting to provide ideas about readings that are focused on love, commitment, marriage, friendship, etc, that can be used in their wedding ceremony rather than the traditional or “normal” ones they’ve heard many times. Here is another one that speaks to many of my couples and their ceremony messaging: Excerpt from “Captain Corelli’s Mandolin” by Louis de Bernières Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like …
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Readings Ideas: Wild Awake

I love helping couples find different content and wording ideas that we can use in the ceremony to express what love and commitment are all about for them.  And the assumption that including something that could be called a “reading” in the ceremony means that either A) a guest has to come up to read it and/or B) it is religious-focused or -toned is a common assumption to make, but would be wrong.  Many of my couples choose one or two or three readings for me to include in the ceremony content and read myself, …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: What do I put in my vows?

After you’ve thought about what kind of structure your vows might be, and how long they might be, what do you write?  What should be in your vows? Remember, the exchange of vows is one of the key reasons for your wedding day (whether it’s public in a wedding, or private in an elopement), and the vows are supposed to last as long as you do. So I recommend that you put a lot of thought into what you want to promise and how you want to promise it.  I expect that the memory of …
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Vows Advice & Ideas: Length of Vows

Did you see my previous post on types of vows?  Well, as they start to work through the process, many couples ask me about the typical length of vows. We show our couples ideas that are a whole variety of lengths, intentionally, and this is what I usually recommend: If questions – usually 3-6 questions If a paragraph to read themselves – usually 150-225 words. Some couples do shorter, and some do longer, but this is the normal range that I see from my couples. I definitely don’t recommend longer than 300 words, as that …
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