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Feels more real with that marriage license in hand!

I love when I hear from my couples that they’ve just gotten their marriage license, as I know that it feels so much more real to them at that point!  It sure did for me! In California, you can actually get your marriage license up to 90 days before the wedding.  But, since there is no waiting period, you can also get your license right up until the very day of the wedding (although why anyone would add stress like that on that day if they didn’t have to, I don’t know!).  Unless there is …
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michelle + carl – balboa park

I received an email last September from a couple who were planning an intimate and informal wedding celebration right before year-end, with only a handful of family members in attendance, in addition to her two teenage sons, and that it was a second marriage for both of them. The three of us got together very shortly after to talk about what they wanted and didn’t want from their ceremony, and then we walked though my process and how I work.  Michelle and Carl told me that they actually had dated in college, 30 years ago, …
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amy + stephanie – catamaran hotel

I met Amy and Stephanie at the Bridal Bazaar, and from the moment we met, I totally knew that they were my couple!  One problem – we had originally planned on being away on vacation over their date, so I told them that we’d figure it out (if we were going or not) and would let them know soon.  Shortly afterward, I received an email from them, with even more information on who they are, and a picture of them doing the 3 Day Walk together (something that I had done for six years, including …
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marriage license witnesses – who can it be?

I get asked regularly about who should be the witness(es) for the marriage license, especially as most couples seem to assume that it should be their honor attendants (like the best man, maid of honor, best woman, man of honor, etc).  And it absolutely can be, but it doesn’t need to be, and hence this post. Let me back up a second.  In California there are two kinds of marriage licenses – confidential and non-confidential.  The confidential one needs no witnesses at all, but is not often used.  The non-confidential license is the more commonly …
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Notes to the Newlyweds: Your Spouse Isn’t a Mind Reader

I was asked to share my/our advice to newlyweds by Equally Wed, and now that it’s been published on their website, I thought I’d share my thoughts here as well.  Enjoy! Dear Newlyweds, Congratulations on your recent nuptials and the start to this new chapter in your relationship! I’m excited for you! I thought I’d share with you some of the things that we’ve figured out in our 8.5 years of marriage, as well as from observing the 600+ couples I’ve married over the past six years (yes, I’m an officiant, and have a ball celebrating all …
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